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NY Family Court / Orders of Protection

Complete Court Guide

Everything you need to know about filing for an Order of Protection in New York Family Court: the step-by-step process, every form you need (with links), what to say to the judge, how to structure your argument, time estimates, and more. This is informational only and is not legal advice.

What You're Doing (Big Picture)

A Family Court Order of Protection is part of a civil (non-criminal) case called a Family Offense proceeding. You start it by filing a Family Offense Petition.

Family Court and Criminal Court often have concurrent jurisdiction over family offenses, meaning you may be able to proceed in Family Court, Criminal Court, or both.

Two Core Stages

  1. 1. Temporary Order of Protection (TOP) — Fast, usually same day you file. Meant to protect you until the next court date.
  2. 2. Final Order of Protection — After the case is resolved, either by consent or after the judge finds a family offense occurred.

Who Can File in Family Court

You can file if you and the other person are:

  • 1. Related by blood or marriage
  • 2. Married or formerly married
  • 3. Have a child in common
  • 4. Are or were in an intimate relationship (not casual acquaintances)
If the person does NOT fit one of these categories, Family Court may not be available. You may need Criminal Court instead.

What Conduct Qualifies (Family Offenses)

Your petition must allege that a legally recognized family offense occurred. Qualifying offenses include:

Harassment
Aggravated harassment
Assault / attempted assault
Menacing
Reckless endangerment
Stalking
Criminal mischief
Strangulation / criminal obstruction of breathing
Sexual offenses (sexual abuse, sexual misconduct, rape)
Disorderly conduct
Intimidation of a victim or witness
Identity theft
Grand larceny
Coercion

What the Judge Can Order (Relief Options)

You can ask for any combination of:

Stay-away

Respondent must stay away from you, your home, work, school, and children's school.

No contact / refrain from acts

No calls, texts, emails, social media contact, threats, harassment, or intimidation.

Exclude respondent from home

Even if the lease or title isn't in your name, the court can order the respondent to leave.

Police escort for belongings

Court can order a police escort so you can safely retrieve your belongings.

Temporary child support

Family Court can include temporary child support as part of an OP case.

Custody/visitation provisions

Temporary custody or supervised visitation can be included in the order.

Firearms restrictions

Court can order surrender of firearms and revocation of firearms licenses.

Step-by-Step: How It Actually Works

The typical flow in NYC Family Court (broadly similar statewide). Each step includes time estimates and practical tips.

1

Go to the Petition Room / Help Center

Visit your local Family Court's Help Center ("Petition Room") during business hours. Tell the clerk you want to file a Family Offense Petition for an Order of Protection. You'll be given forms and a clerk will help draft the petition from your information. Where available, you can also use EDDS for remote submission.

Details

  • No filing fees in Family Court for this.
  • Bring photo ID and any evidence you have (texts, photos, medical records, police reports).
  • If your address needs to be confidential, tell the clerk immediately and ask for form GF-21.
Time estimate: Same day to get petition drafted and see a judge, but wait times vary by borough/county.

Tips

  • Arrive early — courts can be busy.
  • Write your incident details before you arrive so you don't forget key facts under stress.
2

Complete the Paperwork

This is where cases are won or lost. Put as many details as possible: when, where, what happened, injuries, weapons. Include the most recent incident, the first incident, and the worst incident.

Details

  • If there were verbal threats, include the EXACT WORDS used.
  • Tell the clerk about any criminal case and any prior orders of protection.
  • Read the petition before you sign it and fix any omissions.
  • Use this structure for each incident: (1) Date/time/place, (2) Who was present, (3) What respondent did/said, (4) Your reaction and why you feared harm, (5) Injuries/property damage, (6) Why it matters now, (7) What you want the court to order.
Time estimate: 30-60 minutes to complete with the clerk's help.

Tips

  • Be specific and factual. Avoid vague language like 'he was mean' — say exactly what he did.
  • Include injuries even if you didn't go to the hospital.
  • If children witnessed anything, describe what they saw/heard.
3

Request Address Confidentiality (if needed)

If listing your address is unsafe, do NOT write it on the petition. Ask the clerk for the Address Confidentiality Affidavit (form GF-21) and file it with your petition.

Details

  • The court can keep your address sealed from the respondent.
  • You can use a safe alternative address for service purposes.
Time estimate: A few minutes — just fill out form GF-21.

Tips

  • Decide this BEFORE filling out the petition so you don't accidentally write your address.
4

See the Judge for a Temporary Order of Protection

After the clerk drafts the petition, you wait to see a judge. The judge reviews it and decides if there is 'good cause' to issue a temporary order. The judge will also set up the summons and your return date.

Details

  • The judge applies Family Court Act §828 — 'good cause shown' standard.
  • Factors the judge considers: prior incidents, injury, threats, drug/alcohol abuse, access to weapons, prior OP violations.
  • The judge may ask questions based on your petition — answer directly.
  • If you want exclusion from the home or temporary support, SAY SO explicitly.
Time estimate: The judge interaction is often short (5-15 minutes), but waiting can be hours.

Tips

  • Hit 3 things in order: (1) Most recent incident (60-90 seconds), (2) Why the risk is ongoing, (3) Exact relief you want today.
  • Be prepared to explain: stay-away, no-contact, exclusion, firearms restriction, temporary child support if needed.
5

Pick Up Your Papers

If the temporary order is granted, you'll receive your copy of the temporary order and a summons + petition copy for service on the respondent.

Details

  • Keep your copy of the temporary order with you at all times.
  • The summons tells the respondent when to appear in court.
  • The order is NOT in effect until it has been served on the respondent.
Time estimate: Typically provided same day after the judge's decision.

Tips

  • Make copies of everything for your records.
  • Take a photo of the order on your phone as backup.
6

Serve the Respondent

The respondent must receive the papers (personal service) for the case to proceed. You CANNOT serve them yourself. The server can be: sheriff, police, a friend/relative over 18, or a professional process server.

Details

  • Service must be personal (handed directly to the respondent).
  • If a friend/relative serves: you need an affidavit of service at the next court date.
  • If police serve: they give a Statement of Personal Service (no notarization needed).
  • If sheriff serves: the court may receive proof directly.
  • The order is not enforceable until served.
Time estimate: Varies — usually days to a couple weeks before the return date.

Tips

  • Don't wait until the last minute to arrange service.
  • If you can't locate the respondent, tell the court — they may allow alternative service methods.
7

Return Date — Court Appearance

On the return date, two things can happen: If the respondent doesn't show (and was properly served), the judge may hold an inquest and issue a final order. If the respondent shows, you'll typically speak with a court attorney first.

Details

  • If respondent doesn't appear: you explain what happened clearly and organized. The judge can issue a final order the same day.
  • If respondent appears: the options are (a) consent order (often 'without admission' — still enforceable), or (b) the case goes to trial (fact-finding hearing).
  • Be specific — don't forget injuries, weapons, and dates.
Time estimate: The return date is typically days to a few weeks after filing.

Tips

  • Bring all your evidence organized and ready to present.
  • If offered a consent order, it IS still enforceable and protective. Discuss terms carefully.
8

Trial (Fact-Finding Hearing)

If the case isn't resolved by consent, a fact-finding hearing is scheduled. You must prove your case by 'fair preponderance of the evidence' (more likely than not). Both sides can present evidence and testimony.

Details

  • Structure your presentation: (1) Jurisdiction, (2) Timeline of incidents, (3) Elements through facts, (4) Credibility anchors, (5) Relief requested.
  • Evidence to bring: photos, medical records, police reports, threatening texts/emails, witness testimony.
  • Live testimony from witnesses is stronger than written statements.
  • The judge decides whether a family offense occurred and what order to issue.
Time estimate: Often multiple court dates; weeks to months depending on court congestion.

Tips

  • Practice telling your story clearly: first incident, worst incident, most recent incident.
  • If you can't afford a lawyer, ask the judge for a court-appointed attorney (18-B).
  • Both petitioners and respondents may get court-appointed attorneys if indigent.

What to Say to the Judge

When you see the judge for a temporary order, hit these 3 points in order:

1. Most Recent Incident (60-90 seconds)

Date, time, location, what happened, any threats (exact words), any injuries, any weapons.

2. Why the Risk Is Ongoing

Continued contact, stalking, escalation, access to weapons, prior OP violations.

3. Exact Relief You Want Today

“Stay-away from me, my home, my work, and my child's school.” “No contact by phone/text/social media.” “Exclude respondent from the home.” “Firearms restriction.” “Temporary child support.”

Example Opening Statement

“Judge, I'm requesting a temporary order of protection because I'm afraid of immediate harm based on what I alleged in my petition. The most recent incident was on [date] when [what happened]. I'm concerned the behavior will continue because [reason]. I'm requesting [specific relief].”

How to Structure Your Case at Trial

At the fact-finding hearing, the standard is “fair preponderance of the evidence” (more likely than not). Structure your presentation like this:

  1. 1

    Jurisdiction Hook

    "We meet the relationship requirement and the petition alleges family offenses."

  2. 2

    Timeline

    First incident → worst incident → most recent incident. Chronological, date-specific.

  3. 3

    Elements Through Facts

    Threats, unwanted contact, physical acts, stalking pattern — each tied to dates and places.

  4. 4

    Credibility Anchors

    Contemporaneous texts, photos, medical records, police involvement — evidence that corroborates your account.

  5. 5

    Relief Requested

    Why specific terms are needed for your safety going forward.

Service Requirements

Critical: The order is NOT enforceable until it has been served on the respondent. You CANNOT serve it yourself.

Service must be personal (handed directly to the respondent). The server can be:

  • Sheriff or police
  • A friend or relative over age 18 (you'll need an affidavit of service)
  • A professional process server

Proof of service: If a friend/relative serves, you need an affidavit of service at the next court date. If police serve, they provide a Statement of Personal Service. If the sheriff serves, the court typically receives proof directly.

Optional: OP Notification System

New York offers an Order of Protection Notification System so you can receive updates about service and enforcement status:

How Long Orders Last

Standard

Up to 2 years

With Aggravating Circumstances

Up to 5 years (if aggravating circumstances found or a violation of a valid OP)

Aggravating Circumstances Include

  • Physical injury to the petitioner
  • Use of a weapon
  • Repeated violations of prior orders
  • Past criminal convictions for domestic violence offenses
  • Conduct creating a substantial risk of physical injury

Extensions can be granted by motion (form GF-10) for good cause.

If the Order Is Violated

It is a crime to violate a temporary or final order of protection.

If the respondent violates the order:

  1. 1. Call 911 immediately if you are in danger.
  2. 2. Document the violation (screenshots, photos, witness names, dates/times).
  3. 3. File a Violation Petition (form GF-8) in Family Court.Download GF-8 ↗
  4. 4. Report to police — they can arrest for a violation of an OP.

If You Can't Afford a Lawyer

Both petitioners and respondents in Family Offense cases may get court-appointed (“18-B”) attorneys if they are indigent (cannot afford a lawyer). However, you must ask the judge — it is not automatic. Tell the judge at your first appearance that you cannot afford an attorney and request one.

Realistic Time Estimates

Times vary by county but this is the typical shape.

Filing + Temporary Order

Same day (but you may wait hours in court)

Return Date

Days to a few weeks after filing

If Consent Order

Final order can happen on the return date

If Trial

Often multiple dates; weeks to months

Final Order Duration

Typically 2 years; up to 5 years possible

All Court Forms & Documents

Click any form to open it. Required forms are marked. All links go to official NY Courts sources.

What to Include (Checklist)

Must-Haves

  • The relationship basis (why Family Court has jurisdiction)
  • At least one qualifying family offense, with facts
  • Completed Family Offense Petition (8-2) with dates and locations of incidents
  • Details of injuries and weapons (if any)
  • Specific terms of relief requested (stay-away, no-contact, etc.)
  • Address Confidentiality (GF-21) if your address needs to be hidden
  • Service plan + proof of service for the return date

Common “Judge Persuasion” Points

  • Recent escalation / most recent incident
  • Ongoing risk (continued contact, stalking, threats)
  • Weapons access
  • Prior order violations
  • Impact on children

How to Write Your Incident Narrative

Use this structure for each incident you include in your petition (8-2):

  1. 1

    Date / Time / Place

    Be as specific as possible

  2. 2

    Who Was Present

    You, children, witnesses

  3. 3

    What the Respondent Did/Said

    Actions + exact quotes of threats

  4. 4

    Your Reaction

    Why you feared harm

  5. 5

    Injury / Property Damage

    Photos, medical records if any

  6. 6

    Why It Matters Now

    Recent escalation, continued contact, threats, stalking

  7. 7

    What You Want the Court to Order

    Specific terms

Safety Resources

If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

National DV Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (24/7, confidential)

NY State DV & Sexual Violence Hotline: 800-942-6906

NYC Safe Horizon: 800-621-4673